3 Types of break-ups and how to survive each

Independent.UK: Break-ups are no picnic, but how you cope depends entirely on the terms with which you and your partner divide.
In some cases, it’s as easy as having a conversation and saying “so long”, resulting in a breakup devoid of drama.
Here are 3 types of break-ups and how to get over it, according to experts:
The one where someone did something awful
There are some instances where a break-up is necessary and obvious e.g. cheating, emotional abuse and/or physical abuse. In these circumstances, it’s best to opt for a clear-cut conclusion: get the hell out of there and don’t look back.
However, it’s not always that easy, as dating coach Jo Barnett tells The Independent:“The first thing is to know that you can not be responsible for someone’s behaviour and that this is the way they behave, it has nothing to do with you. “Don’t blame yourself, but do distance yourself, say what you need to say and then completely break away, delete all contacts and make it clear that they are not to stay in touch.”
The one that comes out of nowhere:You’ve organised a mini break for you and your beloved, you’ve rented the vintage car, you’ve booked the ‘most romantic’ restaurant on TripAdvisor, but just as you’re ordering your matching PJ set, they tell you “it’s over”. They say “It’s not you, it’s me”. Earth-shattering.You’re crushed, but mostly because you have no idea what to do with the his and hers eye masks that arrived last week.“While this is upsetting news, at least you know that you needn’t spend anymore time worrying whether to invest in the relationship or not,” Mason says
She advises finding ways of getting yourself back out there, either through dating apps or going out with friends and meeting new people IRL.
The one that is harmonious and mutual:This is unicorn of break-ups, so rare that you’re not even sure it exists outside of this very article.
According to mythic dating folklore, both parties leave the relationship after a mature conversation featuring phrases like “I completely understand what you’re saying” and “I couldn’t agree more”.“Mutual amicable break-ups are the most desirable if things really aren’t meant to be,” explains Mason.
Nevertheless, there are some factors worth considering, she notes, for example: Do you both feel comfortable moving straight into friends mode?
And if so, how often to you think you should see each other?If you feel like you can have an open conversation about these things, it will make the break-up all the more seamless, lucky you.