Nusrat Jahan
Someone is complimenting you, and of course, you feel good about. It is good to have some reassurance about yourself sometimes. However, you might want to think if it as a genuine compliment or if the person is manipulating you.
Not every sweet gesture is all that sweet. People sometimes want to butter you up in order to ask of a big favor, to step on you and climb to the top, or just to get intimate with you.
Instead of trusting the untrustworthy, you ought to read ahead and find out how to know if someone is manipulating you.
•Your lover wants to chill? Well, if your lover is a manipulator that they will probably ask you to come to a place where they can show more dominance.
•Ever notice how salespeople let you talk first in order to figure out how to manipulate you into buying their products? If your lover is a manipulator then chances are that they will let you talk first in order to figure out your weaknesses, while they pretend to listen. They may ask a lot of questions and make inquiries, but don’t think it’s because they are interested to know!
•True manipulators or always scheming and conniving. They lie, make excuses, blame the victims for their own victimization, and deform the truth. They speak strategically, making sure they exclude or include just the right things, and exaggerate to the perfect extent.
•Some people like to bully you intellectually. This is when they drop bombs of facts and figures on you, posing as someone with greater power over you.
•Sort of like the intellectual bullies, some manipulators like to throw laws and other procedures at you, to evade any looks of doubt or truth seeking.
•Your friend, lover, or anyone close to you might raise their voice during an argument, debate, or any average conversation, in order to establish supremacy. This is a form of aggressive manipulation.
•Manipulators usually pressure you to make your decisions. They will be glued to your ears, saying all sorts of things, in order to make sure you crack and give in to what they are asking for.
•Some people love to crack jokes, but jokes are no longer jokes if they are not funny, and just simply hurtful. Some people use negative humor to bring you down intentionally.
•Manipulators are always going to judge you and poke around your insecurities, in order to make you dependent on them, and provoke feelings of inadequacy.
•There is a thing called Guilt baiting, where the person tries to hold you responsible for their triumphs and failures. By doing this, they target and exploit your emotional and physical vulnerability.