Marilyn Thipthorpe
There are times we fake our confidence in order to show people we are comfortable or know what we are doing. This could be ok in certain situations, in fact it is encouraged as when you believe you can do something then you actually can. But what happens when a person is not mentally strong but giving out false signs of bravado. We always feel the need to be someone we’re not, a new study conducted by the psychologists at Rutgers University, have found that men act more tough, more often and this is seriously detrimental to their health. Due to this act, they are reticent about going to doctors or even discussing medical symptoms, this causes their diseases to be found out at later stages which will eventually shorten their life span. Here are 7 signs of that distinction:
1. You mask your insecurities with anecdotes and puns, so as to make yourself appear tougher. You keep saying you’re the best in order to mask the fact that you are suffering from self doubt. On the other hand a mentally strong person will acknowledge their shortcoming and strive to improve themselves in order to become people.
2. You think failure is not an option and push and push yourself or others to a breaking point. Why create that sort of pressure on yourself, let go and just accept that you cannot win it all, instead focus on your faults and bounce back from any setbacks
3. You think your self worth is dependant on how other perceives you. No matter how much you might deny this, look into your heart of hearts and see if this is true or not. A mentally strong person will not feel the need to show off; they will ask for help if needed, you don’t need to prove anything to any one.
4. You suppress your emotions or just the emotions that you feel with incriminate you or ruin your image in front of other. This is a classic sign of insecurity and feeling as though you are not comfortable or secure with the people you are surrounded by. A mentally strong person will not feel afraid to show their embarrassing emotions like being angry, shy, angry or sad. They are open about who they are and what they want or expect from life.
5. You deny that you feel any pain both mentally and physically. This sort of show of bravado is not going to help you in any way and will only enable people to take advantage of you, rather if you are hurt by anything learn from it and see if you can avoid such pain in such a way in the future.
6. You think you can do anything in the world you put your hand to. Don’t even in your wildest dreams ever imagine such a thing, there is no such thing as being able to do everything. If you even attempt such a task you will merely be a jack of all trades but a master of none. A strong person understands that obstacles do block our ways once in a while and you must overcome these but if you cannot for some reason or the other there’s no reason to feel like a failure.
7. You might try to control other people and this is a classic syndrome of being an insecure control freak, you must learn to collaborate and delegate so that the work is spread out according to each persons strengths and weakness.