Fabia Shahzadi
Many people find it difficult to deal with anger issues. Being ill- tempered or having short temper can actually strain your personal and work relationships. Best ways for anger management is to first identify the problem and then sort it out accordingly.
Signs: Sometimes you can actually feel the anger build up inside you. Watch out for your body’s physical and emotional reactions as a heads up that you are losing you temper shortly. Increased heart rate, tense muscles and clenched jaw, irritation, resentment, defensiveness; all these indicate an outburst your anger. Try to calm yourself down once you are experiencing these intense anxieties.
Avoid the triggers: Once you are done identifying what triggers your anger outburst, try to cure them. If not solve, at least try to avoid them. Move away from the place; divert your memory to something different, if needed isolate yourself completely. Distract your mind from anything that will escalate your anger.
Response: When you are sure that you are now angry and will very soon lose your temper, the best thing to do is cause minimum harm to the opponent, both physically and mentally. Try to delay your responses, do not react immediately, take control of your physical responses, leave the place if necessary (Still better than using scornful words, trust me!)